Deeds That Beckon
This morning’s story about Fannie Farmer reminded me how much I like to feed people. Making food is a very concrete way of being helpful. It’s satisfying to know that something I did helped meet a demonstrable need. However, like Marcia (the little girl in the story), I wasn’t born with the gifts of cookery or kitchen management.
For instance, there was the time when I was a kid and I thought I would surprise my parents by running the dishwasher unsupervised. I used the dish soap by the sink instead of dishwasher powder in the cabinet. This produced a carpet of bubbles across the kitchen floor, worthy of an episode of “I Love Lucy.” My parents sighed, but didn’t make a big deal about it. They also didn’t prevent me from trying again. Loading and running the dishwasher became my regular job.
Then there was the time when I had my first grown-up kitchen, complete with a housewarming gift of a blender. The blender was filled with soup that had taken lots of chopping and sautéing to get to that point. I turned it off and unplugged it, but then had trouble figuring out how to get the pitcher up off the motor. I twisted, and half the soup came out the bottom. I gave the blender a wide berth for a couple of months, but I came back to it eventually. Smoothies in the summer, applesauce in the fall, soup in the winter – none of these things can be made in single servings. Sharing is a matter of course.
More recently, I have struggled with making omelets. I still haven’t gotten the hang of it. In the process of working up to the challenge, however, I have discovered that I can make a crustless quiche that is quite decent.
I have had plenty of kitchen misadventures, most of which I can laugh about now. I love feeding people, so I keep at it. Being of service to others leads me to grow and change. Service helps me to feel connected to role models and mythic figures I admire like Fannie Farmer. Compassionate action helps me find common ground with others, even when we disagree in theory.
Perhaps Fannie Merritt Farmer felt the same way. Cooking was part of her rehabilitation after a paralyzing illness (stroke or polio) in her late teens. Working for the Shaw family, she gained skills and encouragement for her next step, enrolling in the Boston Cooking School. After graduating, she became the Assistant Director, then the Director after the death of Mary J. Lincoln. Farmer kept learning and teaching, taking an interest in nutrition for people who were sick, just as she had been. Her book on cooking for ill and convalescent people went along with her nutrition lectures to doctors and nurses. Her lectures were published in newspapers across the country. Fannie Farmer grew unto a respected expert who used her skills for the common good. The path of service transforms us.
The Boston Cooking School Cook Book that Fannie Farmer is known for was an updated re-issue of a text by Mary J. Lincoln. Farmer introduced accurate measurements in her version of the book. If you scrape a knife across the top of a cup of flour to make sure you have the right amount in a recipe, thank Fannie Farmer. I have to wonder if revising the cookbook was a tribute to her late mentor.
I know that, for me, the path of service provides a connection with the people I admire from history and legend. In those moments, service is like a ritual of communion with my heroes.
Another gift of the path of service is the way it helps people find common ground. Everybody can benefit from food science and consistent measurement, no matter what our theology. We can all see the benefit of nutrition in therapeutic settings. Besides that, most of us like to eat. I’m counting on shared activity in the kitchen to build bridges in my family over Thanksgiving. Feeding each other, doing kind things for one another, makes the space between us seem smaller. Similarly, shared acts of service can provide peaceful resolution in situations where difference might otherwise lead to division. Compassionate action helps us find common ground.
There’s a reading in the back of the hymnal (#471, arranged by L. Griswold Williams) that speaks to this aspect of our tradition:
Love is the doctrine of this church,
The quest for truth is its sacrament,
And service is its prayer.
To dwell together in peace,
To seek the truth in freedom,
To serve human need,
To the end that all souls shall grow into harmony with the Divine—
Thus do we covenant with each other and with God.
God language will resonate with some of us and not others, but I would be willing to bet that freedom, dwelling together in peace, and the call to service still ring true. Actions provide the common ground. We can find spiritual meaning and a sense of belonging with our history through compassionate deeds.
This congregation does a great job on the action part of the path of service: Sharing Table, bringing donations for the mitten tree in December, fundraising for Circle of Hope at Soulful Sundown. Today I would like to talk about drawing inspiration from our UU heritage for the path of service, and the spiritual qualities of that path. Deeds of compassion beckon us to be transformed, to face challenges and grow from them. Acts of service invite us to enter the mythic tradition of fictional and real-life heroes whose actions we admire, becoming part of that story in body and spirit. Kindness in action helps us find common ground, peace in relationship.
Deeds That Beckon Us To Be Transformed
Compassion asks a lot of people. Following its call means being willing to try things we’re not good at yet. Being true to compassion means meeting challenges and growing from them, allowing our minds and hearts to be transformed.
Dorothea Dix found that out when she entered the East Cambridge Jail in 1841. Her first career had been as a teacher. She had opened a private school for girls, plus a free evening school for poor children. After taking a break for her health, she volunteered to teach a Sunday class for incarcerated women. Dix was horrified by what she saw. The jail was unheated. All of the residents were housed together: people who had been convicted of crimes, people with mental illness, children with developmental disabilities, all mixed together in unfurnished, unsanitary quarters. The only thing the residents had in common was that society had given up on them.
Dix got mad. Then she got organized. She had never been a political activist before, but she learned how. Using her contacts in Boston, she got a court order for heat and other improvements at the jail. But she didn’t stop there. Rather than turn away in disgust or attempting long-distance charity, Dix set about a systemic investigation of jails and almshouses in Massachusetts, making personal visits to document conditions. She said, “I cannot adopt descriptions of the condition of the insane secondarily; what I assert in fact, I must see for myself.” She read all the literature on mental illness and treatment, interviewed physicians, and learned about reformers of the past. She gave her data to a politically connected friend who presented her findings to the Massachusetts legislature. After some attempts at denial and misdirection, funding came through to modernize the State Mental Hospital at Worcester.
One might think that would be the end of it. Legislative victory! She kept going. Dix followed the same pattern in New York, New Jersey, and Pennsylvania. She traveled extensively, collected detailed data about the conditions in public institutions, and delivered her findings to a sympathetic and well-known political figure. Hospitals sprung up in her wake. Biographer Wayne Viney writes, “Dix insisted on a therapeutic setting for the curable insane and a humanely comfortable setting for those regarded as incurable.”
Dorothea Dix took compassionate action, and it changed her into a force for reform. Her Unitarian faith supported her personal transformation, as well as her belief in the possibility of healing and rehabilitation for others. The path of service changes people. Transformation is one of the goals of a productive spiritual path.
In her book, The Case for God, Karen Armstrong suggests that kind deeds are an essential part of religious life, much more important throughout human history than adherence to doctrine. In ancient traditions of India and China as well as the Middle East, a consistent practice of compassion was necessary to unlocking each tradition’s understanding of the ultimate. She writes, “The truths of religion are accessible only when you are prepared to get rid of the selfishness, greed, and self-preoccupation that, perhaps inevitably, are ingrained in our thoughts and behavior but are also the source of so much of our pain.” (p. 20)
To put this in UU terms, we have the image of the “interdependent web of existence of which we are a part.” On an intellectual level, trusting the interdependent web might influence our thinking about recycling or saving the penguins. To understand the interdependent web on a spiritual, gut level, we reflect on our experiences with compassion. Giving and receiving services at the food pantry, we see that we are one community, we’re all connected on a human level. Clean-up days at a beach or river or on the Bay remind us that our actions upstream affect human and animal neighbors downstream.
Which is not to say that we get compassion right on the first try. Like any skill (cooking) or any spiritual discipline, we get better at it with practice. Kindness takes perseverance.
The path of service spurs us to many kinds of transformation. We meet challenges and build skills we didn’t have before. We gain awareness of a timeless spiritual truth, which is our oneness. Reflecting on history and our own experience, the transformation that compassion brings becomes a spiritual as well as an ethical reality.
Deeds That Beckon Us to Enter the Mythical Tradition
I believe that every group, every family, every religious tradition needs stories to provide hope, inspiration, and blueprints for action. These stories don’t need to be factual, they do need to resonate at a deeper level. Stories don’t have to happen exactly that way in order to be true.
In my family, there is a story about my grandmother, who survived the dustbowl, raised her family in a company-owned mining town with few resources other than her wit and stubbornness, and eventually settled in northern California in her golden years under her own vine and fig tree. Is the story literally true? Parts of it are, I’m sure. Family stories usually have elements of both fact and hyperbole. This story gives me a sense of connection with my family. It helps me reframe the hereditary stubbornness I see in my brothers and myself as perseverance. The story gives me hope that trouble won’t last always.
Religious stories do the same thing on a cultural level. The Upanishads in Hinduism, Buddha’s life story, the narrative parts of the Hebrew and Christian scriptures, all of them hold metaphorical wisdom, even if the stories don’t match historical facts.
Karen Armstrong writes that the great stories were never meant to represent historical accuracy. She suggests that our modern habit of seeking certainty in the facts is very different from the cultures that gave birth to religious traditions. We have lost the knack of metaphor. Armstrong suggests framing religious stories as myths, in the best sense of the word. Myths provide psychological truths about navigating the underworld of the psyche, or fighting the monsters of our inner demons, or winding our way through the labyrinth of an unfamiliar turn of events. The test of a myth is not its historicity, but its usefulness to interpreting our lives now. She writes, “The only way to assess the value and truth of any myth was to act upon it.” (p. xii) In other words, spiritual disciplines and deeds of compassion are ways to re-enact and test the myths of a religious tradition.
As Unitarian Universalists, we have access to the wisdom of the world’s religions. We can and do study the stories of many faiths, looking for inspiration in our ethical and spiritual lives. This study also helps us develop empathy and respect for our neighbors of many faiths. We still need myths of our own. We need stories that help us, on an emotional and metaphorical level, understand who we are and how to live in the world. Our history provides those myths. Stories about admirable Unitarian Universalists have foundations of historical accuracy, yet they are family stories, with the same resources for coping that we might find in other myths. When we study our prophetic ancestors and take up the path of service in our own generation, we are becoming part of that mythic story. This is how we discover the truth of our tradition; we act upon it.
The seminary I attended invited me into one such mythic story. My school was named after Thomas Starr King, a minister who served both Universalist and Unitarian congregations in the 1840s through the 1860s. Starr King is known for his lifetime of service that crossed several spheres. He got a lot done. Starr King was about five feet tall. One of his famous quotes is, “though I weigh only 120 pounds, when I am mad I weigh a ton.”
As a nature writer, he persuaded people of the importance of preserving places like the White Mountains of New Hampshire and Yosemite Valley in the West. His accounts were published in the Boston Evening Transcript. Starr King has two mountains named after him, one in New Hampshire and one in California’s Sierra Nevada.
He helped the Unitarian church in San Francisco grow into their mission as a vital congregation involved in the life of the city. Starr King was a vocal abolitionist. When the Civil War broke out, he traveled up and down California, speaking to everyone from miners to legislators about joining the Union instead of the Confederacy or trying to become a separate country. He was given a lot of credit for the outcome. In addition, Starr King was busy raising money for the Sanitary Commission. The first big donation to come from California came through him.
When I lived in California and walked the hills of San Francisco, sometimes I would think, “If Thomas Starr King could hike up the mountains, I can, too.” Visiting Yosemite, I could see his point about the landscape being the scenic equivalent of Beethoven’s ninth symphony. Hiking becomes a spiritual practice that I can identify with the UU tradition. Financial stewardship and anti-racism work are two other areas where I feel Thomas Starr King’s presence. Acts of service are like moveable temples, places where we can go to greet the spirits of our beloved ancestors, both blood ancestors and chosen ancestors.
Memories from the recent past add to the narrative tapestry. I hear stories about members of this congregation who left legacies of generosity and service. We hold them in our hearts when we commit acts of kindness. Reaching out together as a congregation, we keep their legacy going.
When we reflect on the path of service in a spiritual way, it gives us a doorway into the great stories that capture UU collective imagination. Sharing these stories, and acting upon them through compassionate deeds, binds us together as a strong community. The path of service is our way of embodying the story of our people.
Deeds That Beckon Us to Find Common Ground
I have spoken so far about deeds that beckon us to be transformed and deeds that beckon us to enter the mythic stories of our heritage. In a way, these two concepts go back to the reading I shared earlier. “The quest for truth is its sacrament.” We research the truth through the practice of compassion. “Service is its prayer.” Doing kindness is a spiritual practice, because that’s how we live out our mythic story. The path of service also beckons us to “dwell together in peace.” Through compassionate action, people who hold different opinions find common ground.
Karen Armstrong writes that many of the great religious teachers of the ancient world focused more on practical application, in which anyone could participate, rather than speculation about theology. She writes:
“One of the first people to make it crystal clear that holiness was inseparable from altruism was the Chinese sage Confucius (551-479 BCE). He preferred not to speak about the divine, because it lay beyond the competence of language, and theological chatter was a distraction from the real business of religion.” (p. 24-25)
Armstrong goes on to say that the “real business” was practicing the Golden Rule, “all day and every day.” She writes, “All the world faiths insist that true spirituality must be expressed consistently in practical compassion, the ability to feel with the other.” (p. xvii) The path of service is something we can share with our neighbors of other faiths. It is a spiritual practice that puts the arguments of doctrine on a shelf. Compassion helps us to find common ground. Dorothea Dix and Thomas Starr King both knew this.
Dorothea Dix set her sights on federal reform in the late 1840s. She helped a bill get all the way through the legislature, only to face a veto by President Franklin Pierce. She decided to work through her heartbreak on a trip to Europe. Dix visited jails, hospitals, and almshouses in Europe, collecting data and spurring reform in 14 countries over two years. One of the places she visited was Rome, where she presented her findings to Pope Pius IX. Biographer Wayne Viney writes that, “Having verified the accuracy of her reports, the Pope undertook a series of improvements. He expressed appreciation for her work and compared her to St. Theresa.”
This is a clue to the kind of chord that Dix’s work struck across the board. Dorothea Dix was not, and never had been, a Catholic. Her parents were evangelical Methodists. She herself was deeply involved in Unitarianism at the Federal Street Church in Boston. Yet she and the Pope found common ground when it came to the humane treatment of the most vulnerable people in the city.
Perhaps one of the reasons Dix could be so persuasive is that she was able to translate the path of compassion into different religious languages. She not only occupied the common ground, she could draw a map of it so that someone with a viewpoint different from hers could get there. Viney writes:
“In many of her letters and communications, especially those to children, Dix resorted to the language of her earlier Christian conservatism. At the same time, Dix had a deep suspicion of doctrines and creeds. She didn’t like the abstractions of theology and was a pragmatist in the good sense of that word. She felt nearest to God when she was involved in specific actions that resulted in measurable good effects.”
In other words, Dorothea Dix shared something with Confucius and the Buddha: focusing on practical spirituality in the form of compassion instead of orthodox belief.
Similarly, Thomas Starr King built alliances with diverse people by actively living out his values. In order to save California for the Union, raise money for the Sanitary Commission, and spread the news about natural wonders in North America, Starr King needed to work with people who were not Unitarians or Universalists. Differences of doctrine didn’t stop him on his journey. He said, “Our mission is to hasten the time when the church in general shall modify her creeds and grant more freedom to thought and organize more charity, and receive again into fellowship the needful forces, which her narrowness has spurned.” Building bridges between people who disagree is another skill that takes practice. Inviting people into shared, compassionate action is a good place to start. We learn from our heritage of service how to dwell together in peace.
In our contemporary congregations, we take into account the theological differences among ourselves as well as in the interfaith community. We have different ideas about life after death. We generally agree on life before death. The song that Lea Jones sang earlier speaks to this – let’s do what we’re going to do while we’re here. We’ll make our best guesses about right and wrong, do our share, ask tough questions while we can. “When I’m Gone” describes actions that matter. That’s where we find common ground.
I have found the same thing in UU church kitchens from the East Coast to the West Coast. I remember once when the Young Adults volunteered as a group to assist the UU Society of San Francisco when it was their turn to host the homeless shelter. There were UU pagans, UU atheists, UU Buddhists, and UU Christians running around, slicing bread and hefting massive casserole dishes into the oven. Our diversity of theology didn’t matter, although we did have to resolve a conflict about the proper way to prepare rice. All of us had walked past the grave of Thomas Starr King next to the church at some point; we could all share his story as our inspiration. When we got around to discussing our differences at another time, they were merely interesting rather than divisive.
More recently, at the downtown church, a particular leader musters people to cook for a nearby soup kitchen four times a year. She warns people not to bother showering before you arrive in the morning, because the smell of hamburger hash will come home with you. I’m more or less a vegetarian, but I don’t mind. I imagine the essence of stir-fried beef and onions becoming part of us, linking one generation of volunteers to the next. We are one in the spirit, we are one in the onion.
Conclusion
I’m looking forward to participating in The Sharing Table on January 2. This congregation has something special going with its tradition collective kindness. Role models from UU history and from our own congregation help us see this path as a continuous road. The practice of compassion is a tradition we receive, nurture, and share with the next generation. May we be transformed. May we find our place in the mythic story of UUism. May we find common ground in the path of service. So be it. Blessed be. Amen.
Note: The title of this sermon comes from a line in Hymn #358, “Rank by Rank Again We Stand,” words from John Huntley Skrine, new words by Carl G. Seaburg
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